Much attention is given to sex in our relationship. So we often use sex as the relationship health barometer. Are we having it? Is it good? Are we having it enough? If I don’t want it, is that normal? Then we place values on the answers to these questions - determining and interpreting things about ourselves, our partner and our relationship - based on sex. But here’s the thing, the way we understand sex, is actually not personal.
Routine, security, and stability are all virtues of a long term relationship. The down side of these wonderful gains can sometimes be dullness, numbness, and stagnation. B o r i n g. We believe that long term relationships can be absolutely thrilling, with endless possibilities, adventures, and excitement.